And here we were thinking that Women are the one’s with the complicated underlying thought mechanisms to their behavior… WRONG!
Here’s a testimony from the Horse’s mouth!
An illustration on how Mark Goulston,M.D., F.A.P.A, feels about taking directions:
“On more than a few occasions I have driven around my city lost and getting even more lost by the minute and recently did it yet again. I know I am not alone as a male who is hesitant to ask for directions and have tried to figure out why I don’t. “
The list of his reasons, comes across as an entire process ! :
#1“To ask for directions is to admit I am lost.”
#2 “To admit I am lost is to feel both anxious and incompetent.”
#3 “To feel anxious is about wondering if not knowing about this is dangerously close to fears of doubts about many things.”
#4. “To feel anxious and incompetent is to feel less than and not worthwhile especially when I compare myself to other competent men.”
#5 “To feel less worthwhile than other men is to feel vulnerable to their negative regard and even scorn (to match that which I am already feeling towards myself).”
#6 “To ask other men who I project might be feeling as judgmental towards me as I feel towards myself is to invite ridicule and humiliation.”
#7 “To risk ridicule and humiliation from others for being inadequate when I am already feeling that is too much and it’s easier to just fumble around and figure it out myself. “
We hear you, Men! It’s a Vicious circle !! You’re not crazy !
#8 “To avoid dealing with this, perhaps it’s better to just get a GPS in my car (which I have), but then of course I might have to ask directions on how to use that (which I haven’t). “