Couples Who Make Fun of Each Other Have Better Relationships
Hello birds in love, how smooth is your love life going? Ahem, your shy smile is spilling the secrets of your candlelight dinners that often turn into bed breaking make-out sessions! Come on, we know how the first few months go by, with romance on your mind you just can’t keep your hands off of each other! Do you also feel that the flowers are blooming and music is playing in the background when it isn’t? That’s the magic of love, it makes everything look more beautiful. We better stop here, we sound like we’ve put some romance novels in a blender, drank the mix and are throwing up now, Ewww!
Let’s talk about some reality now which is different from this “romance is in the air” cliché, especially after the honeymoon phase is over! Plenty of times you come across “perfect” couples falling apart only after a few years. Ever wondered why? This one question bugs us time and time again but we fail to understand how couples with “on paper” perfection succumb to the reality of relationships! The answer is very simple. You are impressed by their qualification, high profile job, dressing sense and of course, their awwwdorable dog! The last part seals the deal and we understand that but before you look into the pup’s eyes, look into your significant other’s personality trait and we are specifically talking about- a sense of humour!
We have some trivia for you- Psychologists confirm that couples who ironically tease each other all the time have a stronger bond than those who take themselves too seriously. Wow, who would have thought of that? OMG, you look like your world went upside down! Trust us, your sense of humour has a bigger role to play in the success of a relationship than you imagined. But it isn’t restricted to the fact that humor is important in a relationship, that would be too simple and we all know how complex relationships are! If you are a person who enjoys going through one pun after another on social media, you may not gel with someone whose humour revolves around sarcasm, which might be out of your range of humour. Sounds like a petty difference, right? Not something that could lead you towards a breakup? You might be right for a major part but imagine spending the rest of your life not knowing if your partner was joking with that deadpan face or they were being deadly serious. That thought is a little unsettling!
Like come on, in a paradise-like relationship where you both trust each other, have the best conversations and are comfortable together, things can go wrong if your jokes are not well received. Will things sail smoothly if you crack a joke on your partner and they see it as an insult? If this is happening to you, we are sorry to say that your ship is already sinking! Basically it is important to know what kind of humour your partner indulges in because let’s face it, everyone is trying to ace the Tinder game and there is probably not a single profile that doesn’t say- “Hey, I am funny”! You need to know that someone who lives on witty humour will suffocate with someone who enjoys dark humour. Who knew the genre of humour matters as well!
The long and short of it is- you need to be with someone who has the same sense of humour as you do. So if you and your partner can laugh for hours at compilations of dad fails, you already have a strong humorous base to build your relationship on. You can have tons of inside jokes between the two of you and THAT would be amazing! But wait, before you dive headfirst into the pool of humour, know that you don’t have to hysterically laugh at every joke that your partner spits. You don’t have to allow your partner to hail abuses and unpleasant insults at you in the name of jokes! If that’s what is happening, you gotta leave NOW!
Seems like you’ve understood what power humour holds in your loving partnership but that does not mean there aren’t other things that can keep you guys together. If you want you and your boo to be relationship champions, we’ve got a few ideas that might help. Let’s start with the most basic, something that you can do without much effort or thought. Jump at the next opportunity you get to do household chores with your partner. We know it doesn’t sound like the most romantic thing to do but it works and that’s what we are concerned about right now! So try washing dishes together and before you know it, you’ll both be playing with water and soap. Or try to cook together even though the chances of creating something edible would be slim! Come on, when you are in the kitchen amid things like chocolate syrup and strawberries, your thoughts are bound to run wild! You might feel the hunger in the stomach at the end but the hunger for each other would be tamed, ahem!
We were wondering if you guys are spending too much time together, is that so? When you are constantly together, the spark fades away mostly because there is nothing new to talk about. Creating some distance even if for one evening would be like a breath of fresh air, you totally need this if you don’t want your bond to suffocate! Secondly, you might want to try being silent in each other’s company. Sounds strange? Well, when you learn to enjoy the silences that’s when you know that you two are comfortable with each other! It might be tough in the beginning but with time the awkwardness would go away and you’ll have peace in shared silence! But stop before you take it too far and get comfortable in being silent or alone, that would be a disaster!
So let’s get back to being together and making things work. And for that, you must create a phone curfew while spending time together. If you are a social media addict then you know how 5 minutes of scrolling can stretch to 5 hours and when you realize what you’ve been doing, you have already ignored your partner for a good stretch! Not a nice thing, right? The solution is simple- just banish your phones from the room you two are in. Cuddle time calls for technology-free moments and couples shall abide! And if you are dedicating time to just be together, why not incorporate dancing into it? Make the bed your dance floor, put on some music and shake a leg together. Who cares if you are offbeat? There is a sense of comfort in dancing like a moron with your partner! And it again comes down to laughing together!
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